-Good morning, my dear.  Today’s lesson is about relationships and patterns.  From what you have told me about ex-boyfriends/husband, they were usually much more into you than you were into them.  Is that accurate?  From my perspective my dear, that seems to be your pattern.  It’s like a long, strait, boring road, with no mountains, no valleys, and no cute little towns to stop along the way.  It’s kind of like west-Texas.  But that dynamic, that road, hasn’t held your interest for very long historically, and dare to say that it more than likely won’t do it this time either.  I think  that you know that, which is why you say that you’re not going to marry him (again, that’s what you tell me).  You’ve been down that strait, boring road a few times before, and know where it ends: short-term contentment and ultimately dissatisfaction.  It smacks more of your sisters than you, which is, I’m sure, how you never thought you’d end up.  Now back in front of you is a fork to get back on the other road which in your heart of hearts you really want to be on; the one with the mountains, the valleys, and little towns with tourist shops to buy all the local crap.  Obviously there is trepidation, fear, and caution as you stare at the fork pondering which way should you go: continue down the shorter one I’ve been down a few times before which may not be as fun or as hard, but is easy and stable, or do I choose the lesser known path which could be precarious and is filled with trepidation, but yet might be a longer and more fulfilling ride?

-I know you’re not going to make a blind leap-of-faith, so if you really have interest in overcoming your trepidations, then we have to make a real plan, and I promise that I’ll do my part in that.  You know that I’m sincere.  This is not a phase or a whim.  This is acceptance of the feelings inside and surrendering to them and to you.  I surrender.  I don’t want to hide or play games with our lives anymore.  I want you and you want me.  You want kids and I want kids.  You want to marry ME and I want to marry YOU.  It seems like crystal to me.  Just tell me what I need to do, what we need to discuss or overcome in order to start our lives together again.  How long do you think it will be before you get pregnant, he proposes, or I find someone else? The clock is ticking for both of us, babe.