-I loved seeing your upside-down little face.  That was such a nice Thanksgiving treat!  I was doing some thinking about January and remote possibility of getting together.  I want to do it in the worst way; you and me at the house for a few days, talking, having sex everywhere, getting close again, making plans for the future…  Nothing could sound more perfect.  But there’s also a voice that says that unless you’ve already broken up, or you are just about to, we should wait and do it right this time.  Let’s not make the same mistakes, so that there might be any more guilt or any other negative feelings involved in our re-coupling.  I want it to be pure and honest love without baggage.  Not to mention that me being “gentleman caller” wouldn’t sit well with either of us.  What do you think?

-Try repeating this a few times…  Of course feel free to change anywhere you see fit or ad lib;  “Emxxx, I love you but for some reason deep inside I’m not falling in-love, and I really tried to.  You’re a great guy and I thought that moving in together, and buying the house might change things and push my feelings over the edge, but it’s still not there.  I’m so sorry.”   That’s a tough thing to say, but if it’s honest then you must say it to him at some point.  And if it’s not, then you must say it to me.